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Thanksgiving 2016

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I slept 5 hours, so am up pretty early.  I’m historically not a early morning person.  I have gotten way more stuff done late at night in my life than way early morning.  That being said, maybe I am a morning person now, which is just how it might be.  I have a couple pies to make, so I guess I’m going to accomplish something other than gathering knowledge.

I really like Thanksgiving.  I’ve spent the day in many different countries, but in reality, think that being home is probably the best way to do it.  We historically take a pretty good ride today, but I can’t this year, which I understand, but don’t like.

I looked back upon some other posts that I’ve written over the years on Thanksgiving.  It is hard to explain the holiday better.  I like it.  It is my favorite.  Eating good food with a bunch of friends and family is a hard holiday to out do.

I have this house in Central Topeka.  Central Topeka isn’t the best place to live in our country.  I bought it years and years ago and the neighborhood has deteriorated since.  It isn’t a very safe place to call home.

Since I’ve been out of commission for 5 weeks, I went by there to make sure everything was okay.  I saw that a new lock was on my garage and knew something was wrong.  I have my first car, a 1964 VW pickup truck in the garage and was worried about it.  So I came home and got a pair of bolt cutters and a new lock and heading back to see what was up.

I got there and the lock was off the door and it was standing open a crack.  I opened the door and there was a woman standing there.  I said hi and asked her what she was doing there.  She told me she was living there.

It was a little cold, in the 40’s and wet out.  I told her that it wasn’t a good place to live.  I told her the weather was only going to get worse over the winter and that it we had a great, warm fall, but it is going to be cold.

The woman was nice.  She said she was from Arkansas and explained some of her problems.  I talked to her for maybe 15 minutes and said that I’d try to help her find a safer, warmer place to live.  I told her she could stay in the back of my pickup truck, which she had made up like a little nest with blankets.

I went home and called around.  I found a shelter which would take her.  They would let her live there and feed her.  But she had to agree to come between 1 and 3 pm.

She said she was going to the library,  I drove by and the lock was on.  So I drove to the library to find her.  No luck.  I searched around for a couple hours, but couldn’t find her. My window, 3 o’clock passed, so I realized she was going to have to spend another night there.

I went by again at sunset, a little after 5, but the lock was still on the door, meaning she wasn’t inside.

Now it is Thanksgiving morning and I feel distraught.  I feel like I should go there as soon as it is light and make sure she is alright.  The shelter told me that she couldn’t check in today, so she has to spend Thanksgiving homeless.  I guess that is correct.  Probably many people throughout the world wouldn’t call it homeless, but here, that is the case.  I think I’ll go over to and check on her this morning and see if there is anything I can do for her.  I’m going to explain the shelter situation and see if she might be good with that.  If not, I’m going to have to come up with another alternative.

I think all Americans should realize how fortunate we are being born here.  No matter what your economic situation is, we’ve already won the lottery compared to many places on this planet.  Even this woman staying in a garage is potentially better off than the majority of people in certain places like Africa, China, Central or South American.  It is sort of sad, but the truth. We should focus more on what we appreciate and less on our shortcomings, so we can be a more cohesive society.

Anyway, I have a lot to be thankful for.  I appreciate my luck in life and even more appreciate my friends.

Today, Stacie and her family are driving her from Louisville.  They started yesterday and are going to be here this morning.  We’re going to ride indoors, then eat later this afternoon.  Keith and Catherine are going to Kansas City to have Thanksgiving with Keith’s family.  I’m going to go get Catherine’s mother to have Thanksgiving dinner with us.

Tomorrow, most of my cycling friends and such are going over to Keith and Catherine’s for a post Thanksgiving gathering.  It is supposed to be pretty nice weather here, so I’m sure there will be some rides scheduled.  I’m just gonna stay inside and take it slow.

Anyway, have a good day, enjoy the day and the food.  Don’t take it for granted, it is special.

Brian and Michelle stopped by yesterday for breakfast on their way back to Colorado. I miss those guys.

Brian and Michelle stopped by yesterday for breakfast on their way back to Colorado. I miss those guys.

This is Jenny, the homeless woman. She is very nice.

This is Jenny, the homeless woman. She is very nice.

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Friend’s Death – Guilty Plea

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Last June, over a year ago, a good friend of mine, Glenda Taylor, was killed while warming up at the Kansas State Time Trial Championships.  She was hit by a pickup truck while warming up. She was thrown over 150 feet and died at the scene.  A true tragedy.

The driver of the truck was charged with reckless 2nd degree murder.  He pleaded guilty to involuntary manslaughter and unlawful passing of a bicycle.   He will be sentenced on January 9th.

I can’t really comment on the whole criminal process here.  I really don’t know enough about it other than my friend is dead.   The guy that hit her is 38 years old and will serve some time in jail.  I don’t know how long and really don’t care.  No one wins here.   It is a bad deal.

Our cycling group, here in Topeka, actually, all of Kansas, really misses Glenda.  She exemplified what is good about our sport.  She was always a joy to be around.

It is strange how you take friends for granted until they aren’t around.  Then you feel bad because you just assumed that wouldn’t possibly be the situation so soon.  It’s a hard way to learn how life works.

Anyway, I think about Glenda a lot.  A lot recently.  She used to come over for Thanksgiving.

In reality, the deal is that  I miss Glenda. It is as simple as that.

This is a group from Topke out in Colorado hiking. Bill, Vincent, Catherine, Glenda, Brian and Keith.

This is the group from Topeka out in Colorado hiking. Bill, Vincent, Catherine, Glenda, Brian and Keith.

Glenda was the head of the art department at Washburn University. She made beautiful pottery. I am lucky enough to have some.

Glenda was the head of the art department at Washburn University. She made beautiful pottery. I am lucky enough to have some.

 

 

 

TBI’s are Complicated

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You know, I don’t take much anything for granted.  I realized, really realize, that I won the lottery when being born here in Kansas, in the United States of America.  I have been so fortunate to be able to travel throughout the world, allowing me to observe how the rest of the humans on it live.  It just reconfirms how lucky I am.

As I age, things are getting a little tougher.  Which is to be expected.  It is a new challenge, which I like challenges, so it’s fine.   Injuries aren’t nearly so good though.  Short term injuries can, and sometimes do, turn into permanent issues.  That is understandable.  I get it, so it is just another part of life.

This head injury I have now is something I didn’t expect.  I’ve been concussed quite a few times in my life.  It is nearly impossible to not have been if you race bicycles as much as me.  I’ve been doing this since I was a young teenager, so, of course, I’m going to have been hurt a fair amount.

I’ve been trying to read up on this TBI issue.  I guess just about anytime you hit your head you suffer some kind of TBI, which is traumatic brain injury.   Like I wrote a few days ago, normally when I whack my head hard enough to knock me out, I break something else that overtakes the head problem as soon as I wake up.  Normally a broken collarbone, shoulder, or any number of other bones.  The concussion becomes nearly nothing as I try to recover from the whole crash.

Not this time.  I wasn’t too worried about it at the hospital.  They told me that they didn’t have to drill a hole in my head to relieve pressure and that it might take a bit, but I would be fine.  I though that meant like I was going to have a bad week or two, then everything was going to fix itself.  I knew nothing.

I’ve been reading up on this whole thing for a bit each day.  What I’ve learned is that there are so many different levels of these TBI’s that it is a wait and see game.  I’ve actually talked to a few guys that have had them and I’m skipping that for a few more weeks.    These things can linger for a long while.  I’m going to wait until I see the doctor at KU med and get some answers to the questions I still have before I take a different tact.

My main problems so far are headaches, which are nearly unbearable, and loss of balance. And of course, lack of close to enough sleep.  These three things make the day kind of a wreck.  I don’t have enough energy to do anything and can’t sleep enough to get the energy so I can. Pretty big quandary.   It has to get better sooner.  Because later is going to be a long time from now. Ouch.

I’m hoping this is all over by the time the election is over.   I know that it all won’t be over completely, but I’m hoping that I can sleep by then.  I’ve listened to enough NPR from all over the world about our election.  I’m done with that.  Let’s just vote and move on to the next stupid thing that no one agrees on.  It ain’t going to get any better this next week.

Okay, time limit is up again.  I probably should read my emails soon.  It is over a 1000 now. Most I’ve read are just well wishes, which is super nice.  Lots from people I haven’t seen in a long time, which is great.  It is the weekend.  NPR on Saturday morning is alright.  It doesn’t start early enough for me, since  Friday night is really the start of my Saturday morning currently.

Tucker has been laying on the coffee table in the living room to keep an eye on me and what is going on out front.

Tucker has been laying on the coffee table in the living room to keep an eye on me and what is going on out front.  Pretty weird spot for a dog.

Brain Squished my Eye

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Okay, I’ve finally started the doctor rounds.  Yesterday was an optomalogist appointment.   I really haven’t been able to see very well out of my right eye since I fractured my skull.  I wasn’t thinking it was going to be useful, but I was wrong, as usual here.

The guy I saw, i’d never met before.  He says he used to race bicycles, criteriums mainly, when he was going to school in Florida.  Now he climbs mountains.  Pretty nice guy.

As it turns out, he did a ton of stuff.  He took pictures of the insides of both my eyes, measured the thickness of the lenses and lots of other stuff.  I have about 30 minutes of energy in me and this took close to 3 hours, so I eventually just sat, then did whatever his staff asked.

As it turns out, my right eye got pretty squished from my brain slamming forward on it. Squished enough that it isn’t too happy and needs some attention.  It doesn’t sound like I have to have any surgery or anything, but I guess I’m supposed to take some more steroids, like for a while.  He told me that I need to come and see him pretty often and it will probably take over 3 months before we know exactly how it is all going to work out.

Wow.  Three months from now is the end of January.   The steroids cost something close to $300 at the pharmacy, for the first round.  I’m going to research the whole thing a little bit before I commit to this whole deal.  Steroids and these TBI’s don’t sometime like to get along that great.

I have a neurosurgeon appointment this morning at 10 am.   That is 8 hours from now.  I think it is the final appointment with him.  I’m hoping, plus assuming, that I don’t need any head surgery as of now, so this should be a easy one.  I have more appointments next week at KU Med, where I guess I’m going to find out better how long this whole thing is going to take.  I’m planning on getting on a new drug regiment then.  Hopefully something that will allow me to expand my night from 3 hours sleep to something closer to normal, like over 6 at least.  These days are so, so long, like only 2 hours sleep last night.

The Cubs did pretty well last night.  Incredible they hadn’t won the World Series in 108 years.  Probably a pretty happy bunch of baseball players.  Trudi is pretty happy, since Chicago is her home town.

Okay, time is about up.  Funny how short of a time I can concentrate on any given thing now. Guess it is all part of getting better.  Pretty slow going though.

Pretty modern eye doctor's office.

Pretty modern eye doctor’s office.

Guess this is a photo of the inside of my eyes. Seem sort of veiny.

Guess this is a photo of the inside of my eyes. Seem sort of veiny.

Dr. Marefat looking over all the data he collected. Super good guy.

Dr. Marefat looking over all the data he collected. Super good guy.  Really good doctor.

 

Home recovering

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No Visiting, Calling, Texting, Emailing, Trudi or Steve PLEASE!

It’s still me, Vincent, I am not wanting to start a new post every day but Steve is  home now and it seems like a good time to start a new post. I’ll probably update this post for a few days before I or hopefully Steve starts a new post.
Please respect the difficult time Steve and Trudi are going through, please feel free to contact me directly. 720-301-3003. If you are not sure what this is all about start here.

No Visiting, Calling, Texting, Emailing, Trudi or Steve PLEASE! (updated Oct 20): Steve’s brain needs rest. Trudi is focused on helping Steve. If you are local or in some other way are thinking about visiting or contacting (calling, emailing) Steve or Trudi, please do not!  Feel free to continue to leave comments. It is super important that he gets mental rest. Frontal TBI causes interesting and unpredictable personality issues. I will update when this changes. Expect this to be in effect until Oct 27 even after he returns home.

Tuesday afternoon: Steve is home.

Wednesday Summary: Steve still seems cognitively great, i.e., same intellect, asking about politics, biking, etc. He seemed emotionally the same. He is extremely tired.  Feels like he hasn’t slept in days which is probably true. It has been hard for him to get comfortable. Feeling new aches from the crash. His lower back is now sore. He has a pretty deep round wound there. He neck is sore but that is not really new. Right ear feels clogged but it is damaged, he has a crack in his skull behind his ear. if it continues we should see an ENT doc. He also complained of significant head pain.  He is still processing the amount of time it will take to recover and the amount of time that has passed. Eating a bit more and no more vomiting. Have the pill rotation going. That said, he seems accepting of it. Doesn’t feel like working on anything other than getting better. A good sign.

Thursday morning: Steve’s head pain got too bad is very bad! Getting that looked at.

Thursday midday: No Visiting, Calling, Texting, Emailing, Trudi or Steve PLEASE! Steve’s headache was bad enough to get another CAT scan which looked great. He has some new pain meds now and has an appointment to see the ENT later today about the ear.

Friday: Not much to report, It will be a week since the injury and overall progress has been great. New photo of Tucker below.

Recovery: If you are wondering what recovery from this type of injury might entail, this LINK explains it, although to me it says nothing useful while at the same time reading like a side effect warning for head injuries.

Support: Many of you have reached out asking how you can help out. Friendship, prayers, letters, posts in the comments…. All of these things are great. Trudi will be busy taking care of Steve, there will be opportunities to help but we need to let Trudi worry about Steve and their very close friends will help coordinate other help that may be needed. If you have something specific you would like to do, you can contact me, directly helptilford@vincentdavis.net or 720-301-3003. Many have also offered financial assistance. At this time this is greatly appreciated and humbling, but not necessary. If there comes a time it is necessary, we ensure everyone has an opportunity to help.

Watching Cubs game

Watching Cubs game

Tucker helping out.

Tucker helping out.

In Hospital

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Vincent here: As some of you may have heard, Steve suffered a head injury yesterday (Friday) evening. Bill Stolte was also injured. I will post updates as I get them and until Steve is able to return to the keyboard. Please respect the difficult time Steve and Trudi are going through, please feel free to contact me directly. 720-301-3003.

The accident: If you are familiar with Topeka’s regular ride, the accident happened while riding in on 2nd street just before the BP gas station “sprint” finish. The speed was high ~30mph. A dog ran into the road and Steve hit it, went over the bars, Sound like Bill was on his wheel and hit Steve. (Incidentally, we don’t know about the dog. It was taken in by its owners.)

Injuries: Steve was unconscious for at least 10min. Bill got really banged up and broke some ribs and has a collapsed lung. Both Steve and Bill were admitted to the hospital.

Friday night Assessment : Steve had a head CT that showed a crack in the skull, a small subarachnoid bleed with a very small (3mm) shift, and some frontal lobe contusions. He was admitted to the ICU overnight for monitoring. He was having a terrible headache and nausea/ vomiting. Bill has a collapsed lung (haven’t gotten the details on the side or severity.)

6:00am Assessment this morning: repeat head CT showed no change. This is good. He’s in a lot of pain, but this is to be expected.

9:30am Update: Update from Neurologist, Star-burst fracture in the back of his skull, evidence of a huge impact. Frontal lobe bruising is bigger than last night, as expected. More scans to come. Staying in ICU for a couple more days. Still very nauseous, vomiting, head ache. The Neurologist said it could be months of recovery and even some time in a rehab facility. Will know more as time passes.

12:00pm Update: Frontal brain contusion (bruise) is worse. Starburst fracture on occiput (back of head)  with continued but stable subarachnoid bleed.  If swelling worsens he may require a craniotomy (hole in the head) to relieve pressure. This is serious friends, recovery may take time, too long for Steve I am sure.

2:00pm Update: Bill is up eating. Has a chest tube to take care of the lung, 4 broken ribs, should be out Monday.

6:00pm Update: Eating some Jello and a saltine, asking questions. Photo below.

11:30pm Update: Neurology check is good. Neck CT looks good but they have not yet cleared his neck. He has had lots of pain through the day 8/10. They just changed the  pain meds and got the neck collar loosened and he is now sleeping.  Labs look good. He will get another head CT in the morning. He seems much more like himself spirit is back, everyone is feeling much more optimistic while aware recovery will take time.
Bill is also doing much better.

Sunday 8:00am Update: Steves condition seems stable. His neurology exam is good he has no problem following order, understanding questions and answers but he is clearly in a fog. Likely he will be transferred to the floor, out of ICU today. He had a CT scan again this morning, it unofficially looks like the swelling us much better. I have added a few photos below.

Sunday 11:00am: This mornings scan looks good no progression with some regression of the lesion. Transferring out of ICU today. Possibly home on Tuesday. Lots of PT /OT / speech therapy. Things to watch for but unlikely : meningitis and hearing loss in right ear. The doctor is assuming a full recovery in 1 year.  A repeat injury would be really bad.

Sunday evening: Steve was transferred to the spine and neuro floor (out of ICU). He got out of bed and showered, has eaten some broth and apple juice, pain is much better. Recognizing everyone, addressing by name, opening eyes when talking. All good signs.

Sunday sermon from his friends: Passing along advice from the doctor, everyone needs to make sure he never rides a bike without a helmet again. Not even just 1 mile to run tucker . There is a condition called second impact syndrome .  This is super important over the next few years. It can occur from a much lower energy head injury and you die from that! Seth says it well here LINK.

Monday Morning: Bill’s update: Bill is doing great, I mean he has a tube in his chest connected to a machine but otherwise great.

Monday Morning, Steve’s update: I have updated the support section. Steve is looking so much better this morning. Been a huge improvement over last night even in the last several hours. He did great with the occupational therapist actually scored 26/30. At 4:30am Steve decided it was time for a shower. He disabled his bed alarm,  rolled his IV stand into the bathroom and took one, he almost got away with it but for the noise from the water. He will not be going home until he can eat and drink without puking everything up . For the last 3 days, he has not kept anything down. Solid foods are not even an option at this time.

Monday Evening: Bill is home and doing well, or as well as you can with 4 broken ribs. Steve is continuing to improve. He is basically clear to go home once he can keep food down. It is getting to that time in recovery where it almost becomes more difficult for family and friends than the patient. There can be many difficult expected and unexpected issues with this type of injury. Probably looking at a 95% recovery in the next 4-8 weeks with the last 5% taking up to a year. The challenge is that the 5% could manifest in strange ways.

Tuesday Morning: New photo below. Morning CT scan is stable, this is good news. Steve slept well last night. He had 2 bites of pizza last night. He has not puked since yesterday morning, which is really good. His headache is still really bad. He is still very impulsive, this is due to the frontal TBI.
It is likely Steve is going home at the end of the day or tomorrow. It is super important that he gets mental rest. I know many of you would like to email, call, stop by. PLEASE DO NOT DO THIS! feel free to continue to leave comments. Frontal TBI causes interesting and unpredictable personality issues.

Tuesday afternoon: Steve is home. See photo of Steve and Tucker below.
It is super important that Steve gets mental rest. I know many of you would like to email, call, stop by. PLEASE DO NOT DO THIS! feel free to continue to leave comments. Frontal TBI causes interesting and unpredictable personality issues.

Wednesday Morning: (New Tucker photo below) Steve is continuing to rest and heal. Mostly Steve is just very very very tired and has a terrible headache. It has been hard for him to get comfortable. Feeling new aches from the crash. His lower back is now sore. He has a pretty deep round wound there. He neck is sore but that is not really new. Right ear feels clogged but it is damaged, he has a crack in his skull behind his ear. if it continues we should see an ENT doc. Eating a bit more and no more vomiting. Have the pill rotation going. No Visiting, Calling, Texting, Emailing… please, Leave comments below.

Tuesday: Starting a new post, see here.

No Visiting, Calling, Texting, Emailing… please (updated Oct 18): Steve’s brain needs rest. If you are local or in some other way are thinking about visiting or contacting (calling, emailing) Steve, please do not!  Free to continue to leave comments. It is super important that he gets mental rest. Frontal TBI causes interesting and unpredictable personality issues. I will update when this changes. Expect this to be in effect until Oct 27 even after he returns home.

Recovery: If you are wondering what recovery from this type of injury might entail, this LINK explains it, although to me it says nothing useful while at the same time reading like a side effect warning for head injuries.

Support: Many of you have reached out asking how you can help out. Friendship, prayers, letters, posts in the comments…. All of these things are great. Trudi will be busy taking care of Steve, there will be opportunities to help but we need to let Trudi worry about Steve and their very close friends will help coordinate other help that may be needed. If you have something specific you would like to do, you can contact me, directly helptilford@vincentdavis.net or 720-301-3003. Many have also offered financial assistance. At this time this is greatly appreciated and humbling, but not necessary. If there comes a time it is necessary, we ensure everyone has an opportunity to help.

Thanks to the wonderful staff at Stormont-Vail

Point of acknowledgment: My wife is making me say this, I do what she says 😉 Steve was not wearing a helmet. He may be pissed at us for posting this when he’s all better, but seriously, wear your helmets. We don’t know if it will change his decisions in the future, but please let it change yours.  And please don’t focus on this point in the comments. Could’ve, would’ve, should’ve, but we just want Steve and Bill better.

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Getting a CT scan

Getting a CT scan

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Getting a hair washing

 

All cleaned up

All cleaned up

Stacie has been a great help and friend the last couple days.

Stacie has been a great help and friend the last couple days.

Tuesday Morning

Tuesday Morning

Home again with Tucker

Home again with Tucker

Loyal Tucker

Loyal Tucker

Danny Chew Paralyzed

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I just read last night, when I got back from St. Louis, that Danny Chew,  RAAM winner and all around good guy, fell yesterday and broke his back and is now paralyzed from the waist down. What a tragedy.

I’ve known Danny for a very long time.  Since he was a teenager, and me nearly too.  His brother Tom and I rode together, on a composite team, in the first Coors’ Classic I did.  We were sponsored by Anchor Steam Beer.  The Chew’s, Tom, Danny and their father, drove through Topeka and picked me up on their way to Colorado.  We trained in Aspen for a week before the race.

Danny has always danced to his own beat.  I only saw him every few years recently.  Actually, I don’t think I’ve seen him that recently.  I last time I remember seeing him was at Interbike. Wow, that was a while ago.

Danny promotes a race/ride in Pittsburg call the Dirty Dozen.  I watched a video on it  (below) and put it on my bucket list right after.  It looks like a blast.

Danny is in the hospital and his injury is early to diagnose.  But he has some broken vertebra and is missing feeling in his legs.  Danny has a lifetime goal of riding 1,000,000 miles.  It is rumored that he said  – “I’ll just have to finish my million miles on a hand cycle. So be it.”

Danny’s friends sent up a crowd funding site to help cover some of the costs of the excess medical bills, which, for sure, are going to be huge.  Click here for the link if you think you be able help out.  

Danny, with his whistle, ready for the start of the Dirty Dozen.

Danny, with his whistle, ready for the start of the Dirty Dozen.

I believe this is the Morgul-Bismark stage of the Coor's Classic that year. I'm #47, Tom just above me.

I believe this is the Morgul-Bismark stage of the Coor’s Classic that year. I’m #47, Tom, #48, just above me.